Letters from the Front!
Specialist Valencia with her Husband Diego Valencia, her sons Miguel Valencia and Isaac Valencia at Fort Jackson, SC. Basic Combat Training graduation. August 2022.
By Evita Salles, EdD
Commander, U.S. Navy President, Women in National Security
When I went to my recruiter almost two years ago and started telling my family and friends that I wanted to join the Army, “Estas loca!” and “Por que?” was everyone’s reaction, but not my husband. He always knew joining the military was my childhood dream.
I am Specialist Daniela Valencia, a Soldier in the U.S. Army. I have been in for 15 months and it has been a roller coaster.
In March 2022, when I signed my Army contract, my friends started to try to make me quit on my dream. They couldn’t understand why I was joining at 34 years of age, married, with two kids of eight years and 11 months at that time. They told me all these horrible stories about the military, how terrible their experiences was, and how bad would be for me to join. The two months between signing my contract and shipping to basic training were by far the most confusing: days and nights of thinking about my decision, re-thinking, and overthinking my why. Why am I joining the Army and why after all those stories and other people’s experience do, I still feel the same, wanting to join, eager to join, proud to join?
As a Latina immigrant with a thick accent, I always wanted to fit in and feel like a real American. My husband and I moved to the U.S. in 2013 as asylees. I started working as a family support worker for a Non-Profit Organization and stayed in the sector for about eight years growing as a person, while seeing hundreds of undocumented immigrant families trying to fit in, pursuing their American Dream. But beyond my job and knowing that I was helping my community and changing so many lives in the Non-Profit sector, I wanted more. I wanted to feel more American; to stop being “just” the Colombian with an accent, and my answer was always me dressed in greens and with the United States over my heart.
For the last 15 months, I have experienced the most challenging time of my life. Starting with the 4+ months in training, to reporting to my new duty station knowing I was getting deployed and will be away from my family for almost a year; 15 months that have made me stronger physically and mentally, a time where I have met great people, friends, mentors, 15 months of living an adventure. During these challenging times, I have found that I am more capable than I thought; that pushing hard is worth it,that we own our story, and that we all are capable of achieving whatever we want if we really want it with our heart. Your experience in the Army not only depends on others, it depends on who you are, how committed you are, and how far you want to get.
Now when I look in the mirror I don’t only see Daniela, the lawyer who left Colombia pursuing the American Dream and looking for a better and safer future. I now see Specialist Valencia, an American soldier; a mom that sets the example for her kids; a 35-year-old woman who every morning fights for her dreams; a Latina that wants to be an inspiration for all others that dream big but find people on the way trying to diminish those dreams with expressions like “your accent is too thick,” “you are not a citizen,” “you are too old,” “you are not strong enough.” Well, today I am glad that all those horrible expressions and stories didn’t prevent me from pursuing my dreams.
Today I know that all those barriers I thought I had, all those doubts of myself, are just there to challenge me and that I can dream as big as I want. Today I don’t see myself anywhere else or wearing anything different than being in the U.S. Army wearing my Army Combat Uniform!
I am building my and my family’s future, making sure that my kids will always feel proud of their mother, and not only proud, but I also want to inspire them. I am pretty sure the Army has much more in store for me and I am ready for it.
Specialist Valencia at Qualification event. Fort Carson, CO. November 2022.
Specialist Valencia at AIT Graduation Finance Corps. Fort Jackson, SC. October 2022.
Specialist Valencia’s Naturalization Ceremony. Fort Lauderdale, Fl. October 2022.